DAWN OF THE ETERNAL GUMPTION =)

Tips for Managing and Communicating with Different Personalities =)

CALCULATOR - Assesses Others
.  Cool, distant, reserved, diplomatic, courteous,
restrained
·  Thinks before acting
·  Concerned about accuracy
·  Prefers data, facts, and order
·  Objective, conservative, unemotional
·  Under pressure - becomes critical
·  Fears making mistake

DRIVER - Directs Others
·  Directing and dominating, take charge person
·  Exudes power, authority and confidence
·  Very competitive and naturally aggressive
·  Quick, impulsive, always pushed for time
·  Direct and straight-forward with people, very
outspoken
·  Under pressure - belligerent
·  Fears unfair advantage

SUSTAINER - Accommodates Others
·  Easygoing, steady, process oriented, slowerpaced
·  Predictable, consistent, prefers routine
·  Accepts others slowly
·  Indirect, prefers to suggest
·  Accommodating, willing, conforming
·  Under pressure - slows down
·  Fears change

INFLUENCER - Relates to Others
·  Outgoing, people oriented, very friendly and
affable
·  Enthusiastic, popular, easy to talk to
·  Exudes charm and eloquence; stylish and
trendy
·  Positive and optimistic
·  Under pressure - emotional
·  Fears conflict

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It can be difficult to communicate with people who are different personality types. By learning how to recognize other people’s styles and knowing how to effectively communicate with them, you will gain a great advantage. Developing this skill is even more critical for managers. Learning a variety of ways to manage different personality styles can be time consuming and overwhelming, but is vital to being effective. Here are some quick suggestions of how to interact with anyone who scores high in one of the four DISC personality types.

Ways to improve communication with a…

DRIVER
•Be clear, specific, brief and to the point
•Present the facts logically: plan your presentation efficiently
•Minimize features, maximize benefits
•Flatter their egos
•Talk quickly and listen carefully
•Ask specific questions & give direct answers
•Recognize that they are risk-takers
•Speak with confidence

Factors that will create tension:
•Over controlling the situation
•Telling him/her what to do
•Not reacting quickly
•Speaking slow and deliberately
•Being indecisive
•Explaining too many details
•Appearing disorganized
•Over using gestures and emotion

INFLUENCER
•Be friendly and sincere, not dominating
•Give fewer details than you might normally
•Ask for their ideas and opinions
•Give him/her time to ask questions
•Tell how others will benefit
•Control your impatience
•Use emotion and flattery
•Provide ideas for implementing action
•Smile and talk more than usual
•Support your communications with correct facts and data

Factors that will create tension:
•Over controlling
•Displaying your impatience
•Talking about yourself
•Attention to detail
• “Follow the book” approach
•Not sharing information freely

Ways to improve communication with a…
SUSTAINER
•Listen patiently
•Take time to explain
•Develop more empathy and patience
•Take a personal interest in them
•Exhibit friendly attitudes
•Slow down
•Give more attention to details
•Control body language
•Speak with a sincere tone of voice

Factors that will create tension:
•Overselling new concepts or ideas
•Dominating with active body language
•Being overly optimistic
•Appearing cool and distant
•Talking too much and not listening
•Always adhering to company rules
•Being positive about information
•Not demonstrating personal attention

CALCULATOR
•Slow down and listen
•Explain details
•Be sincere - lower your tone of voice
•Be conservative in assertions
•Answer questions precisely
•Minimize risks
•Use restrained body language and emotions
•Avoid sudden changes
•Try not to criticize their comments or choices

Factors that will create tension:
•Being too blunt and direct
•Forcing them to take risks
•Being overly optimistic
•Inability to prove what you say
•Slow response time to their needs
•Desire to be more correct than others
•Sloppy work environment
•Over-convincing

Fwd: MARRIAGE JOKES =)

1.  If all Brides are beautiful, where do ugly wives come from?

2. I'm thinking about getting married. I looked up the word "engaged" in the dictionary. It said, "To do battle with the enemy." Then I looked up mother-in-law. It said, "See engaged."

3. Dan: "I'm a man of few words."
    Loz: "Yeah, I'm married, too."

4. It's not true that married men live longer than single men. It only seems longer.

5. I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.

6. What is the shortest sentence in the English Dictionary, but the longest sentence of your life?
"I do."

7. The future father-in-law asks, "Young man, can you support a family?"
The surprised groom-to-be replies, "Well, no. I was just planning to support your daughter. The rest of you will have to fend for yourselves."

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PS

Thanks sa lahat ng bumabati. Yavyush! =)

HOW TO WORK IN A HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT =)

HOW TO WORK IN A HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT
Points from T.D. Jakes







1. Don't expect to be appreciated. Your only expectation should be to get a Paycheck. Don't come to work to have personal relationships. Don't allow What you do to affect who you are.

2. Do your job well, but remember your mission. God put you there to be a Light.

3. Seek opportunities to change the atmosphere without commenting on the problems. You have a God to talk to. You are on an assignment. Quietness and competence shall be your strength.

4. Don't let your environment get inside of you. You should influence it,not let it influence you. Stop going to work to be fed. You didn't come to receive, you came to give.

5. Increase your capacity to work with different personalities. God will often bless you through people you don't even like!

6. Remember, where you are does not define where you are going. This will deliver you from frustration. God has a plan for your life. Keep your eye on the prize.When Peter did this, he was able to walk in what other people sank in!

7. Get the optimum results with minimal confusion. Be effective without making the environment worse.

8. Don't be associated with one group or clique. Labels limit your usefulness. God wants you to work with everybody but be labeled by nobody. Use all your gifts.

9. Always keep your song near you. Keep a consecrated place in your soul. Hold on to your praise.

10. Understand that God anoints you for trouble. Put on the whole armour of God before going to work. =)

Fears That Keep Us From His Presence

Luke 8:37
Then all the people of the region of the Gerasenes asked Jesus to leave them, because they were overcome with fear. So He got into the boat and left.

Jesus did many miracles when He lived on earth. One of those miracles involved the deliverance of a demon-possessed man. The people of the community witnessed this awesome demonstration of God's power when Jesus commanded the demon spirit to come out of the man and go into the herd of nearby pigs. The man was healed and sat at Jesus' feet.

You would expect the people who witnessed this to embrace Jesus as one performing good deeds and to honor Him. The opposite was true. Instead, they were overcome with fear. Why? Many of us respond the same way to Jesus when He does an out-of-the-ordinary act among His people. We are fearful because we have never personally experienced this before. So, we draw wrong judgments. The result is that Jesus removes Himself from us.

The Lord is able to do far exceeding above what we think. Jesus does not remain in the places where there is fear of His goodness. It is often subconscious fears that prevent us from going to a deeper level with Him. The people in Gerasenes could not benefit from Jesus' presence because of their fears.

Have you feared Jesus because of what He might require of you? Have you feared that He might ask of you something you are not prepared to give? Do not let your fears drive Him from your presence. His motive is always love for His children. You can trust Him.

Architect Guia? Hmmm...

FROM TICKLE:

You try to control situations by learning everything there is to know. You hesitate to take hasty actions and prefer to become an expert before providing your opinion on matters. When you do become an expert, however, it is hard for you to listen to novices who try to give their advice, as well. As a result, you ultimately prefer to work by yourself so that you can implement your own solution rather than cooperate just to please others.

Research has shown that people whose personalities are well-suited to their job environments are happier and more successful. Remember, your Right Jobs were selected because they are good matches for your career personality — they would allow you to exercise the qualities mentioned above. They were not based on the skills you already have, or would need to perform those jobs. Those are things you can learn along the way.

That said, here's a description of the Right Job that is the best statistical match to your career personality. If you don't like the sound of it, you can do a bit more research on the runner-up jobs that match your personality almost as well.

As an architect, you would plan and design structures. Most likely, you'd focus on buildings and their immediate surroundings. In particular, architects plan a building's layout — everything from the look of the building itself to where the rooms, the elevators, the stairs, the doors, and the windows should go. You'd do all this while taking the engineering demands into account — the demands necessary to keep the structure stable and safe. Architects also have to do all this while designing a structure that meets the wishes of the client.

Architects are often responsible for choosing the building materials and equipment within a given budget and timeline. That means you'd oversee every aspect of the project, including supervising workers, preparing contracts, and representing the clients' needs to contractors. Architects typically possess high aptitudes for mathematics, spatial reasoning, and creativity. They have skills and interests in both big ideas and small details. Obtaining a four-year degree and passing the Architectural Registration Examination (administered by the Board of Architecture) are prerequisites to becoming an architect. The exam consists of nine parts and takes four days to complete.

Although the work environment of an architect is the best fit for your career personality, that is not to say you won't be happy in another job. In fact, there are plenty of careers that could use your personality's strengths. Architect was the highest statistical match for your personality characteristics. Look to the right for some other jobs that scored high and would be a great fit for you.

In addition to discovering what career best fits you, Tickle has provided some information about how to best fit your career goals with your lifestyle needs. After all, your career can take on many forms, and it is important to know what best works for you.

Why These Jobs Fit Within Your Lifestyle
You're shooting for the moon and won't stop until you get there. You enjoy the high life and seek glamour and excitement. You want a leadership position that has both stability and prestige. Having the best is important to you, and you always opt for quality over quantity.

You are proud of your accomplishments and want your possessions to reveal that you've done well in life. After all, you are willing to work hard to advance in your career.

You have impeccable taste and know the trends. Because your status needs are high, be prepared to work long hours to climb to the top. This ambition may make it difficult to sustain successful long-term relationships, but a like-minded partner can become your ally in your pursuits and enjoy with you the fruits of your labor.

You may have already landed your dream job. Congratulations! But most people are still waiting to find the best job for their career personality.

Remember that wherever you are in your career — even if you're already in the job you want to keep for the rest of your life, you can't always control when or how the nature of your job might change, or how the goals of your company might evolve. But you can control the kinds of jobs you look for. That's why it's just as important to know your Wrong Job, as it is to know your Right Job.

To figure out what your Wrong Job is, we inverted the calculations for your Right Job. That means that the personality dimensions on which you scored the lowest contributed to our analysis of the Wrong Job for you.

      

Wrong Job

       

    Meg, if you want to avoid your wrong Job, don't be an:       

Electrician

Why shouldn't you be an electrician? Remember it's not all about the skills you have or don't have. The Right Job for you is the job that suits your personality best. For true job satisfaction, your job environment needs to match your personality. Even if you like the idea of what an electrician does or are good at it yourself, there are still reasons this is the Wrong Job for you.

Beyond the daily tasks of an electrician — testing circuitry, installing and repairing wiring and electrical fixtures — electricians need to truly enjoy working with their hands. In fact, they also need to take pride in seeing the tangible results of their finished work if they are to enjoy their career at all, since so much of their work revolves around testing and retesting new or damaged electrical lines. Many electricians are also on-call and at the mercy of their beepers. That can make scheduling the rest of your life difficult. These are just some of the reasons you wouldn't find life as an electrician very satisfying — why it's the Wrong Job for you.

   

Each Day =)

 



A new year just beginning,
   Each day a fresh, new start,
   To fulfill your hopes
   And pursue the dreams
   Sustained within your heart.

   Put God in charge;
   He'll plant the seeds
   Of affection, love and care.
   Like a garden, your life will grow
   With kindness flowering there.

   And as you face the wonder
   Of each day's mysteries,
   You'll see God's hand
   Unfolding, daily, possibilities!

   And as each day comes to a close,
   Dream a dream or two,
   Then with a prayer thank dear God
   For each day given to you.

Poet: Gael Phaneuf
Picture: c/o my Badminton Pal (Len2x)

DOMINO =)

Ni rG. de Leon- :)
(Unang ipinost sa Guia Writer; Para sa mag-asawang M)

Ang mundo ay kuwadrado.
Mga bloke ng domino.
Nakapila. Parang tao.

Kaya pag may gagong
Nakipagtalo sa bobo
At nanggulo sa may kanto.
Naadik sa kanyang trono.
Gumawa ng iskandalo.
Gumaya sa pulitiko.
Umayon sa panloloko.
Lumapastangan sa aso
O nang-asar lang ng psycho...

Tiyak, matatarantado
Ang mundong parang domino.
Binuo para gumuho...

On SIMPLE Living =)

There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:

1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he
started too late!

2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering
newspapers.

3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town
Omaha , that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says
that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not
have a wall or a fence.

4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or
security people around him.

5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's
largest private jet company.

6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes
only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving
them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a
regular basis.

He has given his CEO's only two rules.
Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.
Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time
after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch
television.

8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time
only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common
with Warren Buffet so he scheduled his meeting with him for only 30
minutes. But when Bill Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten
hours and he became a devotee of Warren Buffet.

9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on
his desk.

His advice to young people:
"Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself.

Remember:

A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.

B. Live your life as simple as you are.

C. Don't do what others say, just listen to them, but do what you
feel right and good to do.

D. Don't go on brand names; just wear those things in which you
feel comfortable.

E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; rather just spend
on them who are really in need.

After all, it's your life :-)
Why then give a chance to others to rule
your life?

STOP Kissing FROGS by JFerwenda =)

In fairy tales a princess kisses a frog, and it becomes a prince. But in reality, kissing a slimy, warty, green frog won’t deliver a prince. And even kissing the wrong kinds of guys (aka frogs) won’t get you a good husband.

When it comes to romance, the choices you make now will affect your life. Satan knows that if you believe his lies, you’ll make wrong choices that will result in a disappointing and empty marriage. Unless you recognize and replace the lies he tells you with truth, you’ll miss the awesome marriage that God has planned for your future, and you might settle for a frog.

Fairy-tale Lies
Storybook endings are where we first heard lies about romance, when we were assured of a happily-ever- after in this life. These predictable stories portray a beautiful princess who needs rescuing and a charming, handsome and brave prince (who is sometimes a warty frog waiting for a magical kiss). The stories usually include a castle, a gallant horse, a villain, and a fairy godmother or wise mentor.

The prince and princess meet by a stroke of fate and fall in love without considering faith, values, cultural background or emotional baggage. There’s no time to develop a lasting commitment, trust and unconditional love. The success of their relationship is entirely built on outward beauty and status.

Hollywood Lies
A few years later, we turn to movies for romantic definition. The story is basically the same. She is still beautiful and needs rescuing, only she has a sexier tone in her style of dress and behavior. He is still charming, handsome and ready to rescue his beauty from some life difficulty. Meeting again by a stroke of fate, they fall into what appears to be a lasting, passionate love that will surpass the test of time without struggle or hard work.

The mystery and intrigue are heightened by the romantic background music. And the grand ballroom has been traded for the grand bedroom where they spend their first night together. There are no sexually transmitted infections to contend with, no unplanned pregnancies. She is never on her period, and the two are never clumsy or inexperienced in their sexual activities.

There are no wicked stepmothers, unless you consider parents who are portrayed as goofy, overbearing or too busy to pay attention to their kids. The castle has been traded in for a Hollywood-style mansion, and the horse is now a Mustang convertible. The success of the relationship is still built on outward beauty, status and sex appeal.

Typical Adult Reality
Fast-forward a few years. There’s no fairy godmother, no horse or sports car, and no castle or Beverly Hills mansion, but there are lots of frogs that never turn into Prince Charming, even after many kisses and possibly sexual compromise.

The now grown-up girl considers settling for the least warty frog she can find. Maybe he’ll change over time, she hopes. When she does find a man, they have to deal with communication difficulties, disappointed expectations, unresolved hurt feelings, spiritual differences, sexual history, emotional baggage and insecurities. They discover that real life has zits, bad hair days, receding hairlines and not enough money to buy the latest trends.

The giddy, can’t-stand-to-be-without-you feelings from early in the relationship have vanished, leaving behind emotional distance and loathsome feelings. Why can’t they maintain mystery and passion like they had at first — like in the movies?

Godly Romance
Fairy tales and Hollywood movies cause us to long for these stories in reality. We can spend our lives looking for something (or someone) that doesn’t exist, while making mistakes trying to find it.

Here is the problem: You can’t follow the world’s pattern for relationships and get a good result. If you’re going to marry some day, God wants something better for you than a frog; He wants you to marry a man after His own heart. That means you need to set yourself apart from the dating and sexual standards of this world to wait for that special person. If you marry someone who loves Jesus with all his heart, your relationship will be built on a solid and lasting foundation. Your godly husband won’t be perfect, but he will seek to consistently love you with God’s love and put you before himself. He’ll try to be the best husband possible because he lives to please God. Compared to the shallow and empty things that Hollywood and fairy tales offer, real love is a little bit of heaven on earth.

Happily Ever After
Many lies that Satan uses are a twist of something that’s true. There really will be a happy ending in your future if you’ve put your faith in Jesus for salvation. The Bible says that someday Jesus will return to rescue you from all the hurts and disappointments of this world and take you to His kingdom of gold streets and precious gems galore to be His bride (Revelation 19, 21). You really will live in never-ending bliss, continuing mystery and passion with your one and only Savior and real Prince.

Finding Your Prince

·Pray for guidance. Ask God to help you become wise, discerning and ready to meet your future mate.

·Avoid frogs. Spend quality time around committed Christian guys.

·Make friends. Until God gives you the go-ahead for a romantic relationship, focus on friendships with guys.

·Practice patience. Don’t settle prematurely for a frog; God has a special plan for your future.

·Pursue purity. Think about your future as you seek to be pure in words and actions.

·Observe. Look for signs of a guy’s character to know how he will treat his future mate.

(Julie Ferwerda is the author of "The Perfect Fit: Waiting for God's Best after Failed Relationships" and is a regular contributor to www.CBN.com. To order her book or to read more of her articles, go to: www.JulieFerwerda.com.)

LATE NIGHTS OF 2007

Life...

    waking up each day appreciating the dawn

            meeting familiar people but making new conversations

walking until dusk but still feeling great about it

      realizing that you have wrinkles but still feeling young at heart

  meeting the busy schedules but still finding time for old friends

      being nostalgic about gone days but looking forward to better days...

   & EXPRESSING REVOLUTIONARY THOUGHTS
                    IN THE SILHOUTTE OF YOUR JOURNALS
            hoping that someone is heartfully listening
       & that somehow, you are imprinting a change for a better world.

          
                       HAPPY 2007* EVERYONE! Kudos! =)

*Chinese New Year 'pahabol' & Advanced Easter Greetings =)